Self worth and finding peace within
The American Psychological Association defines integration as the coordination or unification of parts into a totality.
"The integration and acceptance of our totality - our successes, failures, life experiences, traits, behavioural patterns, desires, upbringing, intergenerational content, and the aspects of ourselves that we shut out, compare to others, or fear will exclude us from belonging - is necessary for us to feel grounded in our self-worth.
The more we integrate all aspects of ourselves, the more able we are able to make conscious decisions, reduce internal conflict, and live with greater well-being. This integration improves the quality of our relationships, increases our chances of aligned success, allows us to live in the fullness of who we are, and helps us feel peace within.
This is my wish for everyone I am privileged to work with." Lutz Otto
Transformation
"Transformation is an evolutionary process that we deeply feel and experience. Once it occurs, we move beyond just understanding it intellectually to fully and sustainably living the change. We embody a rooted version of our authentic self, with acceptance and clarity that transcends our past. This shift is such, that even under pressure or when very relaxed, we do not unconsciously revert to our old ways. Such transformation can occur multiple times in our lives." Lutz Otto
Vulnerability
"Believing that vulnerability is unsafe is at its best a basic defense, and in reality, an illusion. Our psychological and physiological makeup, our humanness, makes each of us vulnerable, whether we would like to believe it or not. The vulnerability and courage of doing the work necessary to find and show our truth far outweighs the lifelong burden of living an inauthentic life." Lutz Otto
“Not the world, not what’s outside of us, but what we hold inside traps us. We may not be responsible for the world that created our minds, but we can take responsibility for the mind with which we create our world.” Gabor Mate
Life and Counselling Coaching
My practice integrates life and counselling coaching. As a certified practitioner in both disciplines, my experience with depth work has increasingly shown me that sustainable outcomes are best achieved by holistically incorporating elements of both. I work in person, online, and outdoors across South Africa, Europe, the UK, and the USA. Explore my:
That which I create a safe, neutral, supportive, interpretive, and confidential space for my clients to work through includes:
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Building self-worth, self-confidence, self-acceptance and/ or self-compassion. Enabling personal agency.
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Cultivating deeper self and other awareness.
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Working through difficult emotions, beliefs, or experiences.
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Moving through the uncertainty, fear, frustration, anger, denial, sadness, anxiety, depression, fragmentation, and disconnection, that we can feel during difficult stages of our life.
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Telling your story, saying the things that need saying, and making sense of this in a way that allows you grow, and move forward in a more meaningful way.
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Managing transitions with greater intentionality and clarity. Transitions occur throughout life; Some feel good, some are downright disorientating and painful. Regardless what they bring, the only way is through.
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Navigating new life phases, whilst integrating your past with where you are now.
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Working through unhelpful thinking patterns, and subsequently build new ways. Exploring our shadow side, bringing acceptance to this, and integrating it into our life.
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Coming to better understand how self-limiting beliefs, self-sabotage, and imposter syndrome come alive in some of us - Then learning to work with these, in the acceptance that we need more than cognitive behavioral techniques and discipline.
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Making better conscious choices. Defining needs, desires, and values. Defining goals and working towards them.
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Reframing perspectives. Exploring our narratives and worldviews.
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Identifying and working with relational patterns. Understanding and identifying attachment styles, and how this comes alive in our romantic, professional and other important relationships. Coming to accept this, or establishing new ways of being.
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Trauma, grief, and loss counselling. Safely processing and reducing the intrusive impacts of trauma. Integrating and moving beyond trauma.
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Exploring existential questions and crisis's. Exploring meaning and purpose.
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Understanding how we create our sense of self [known as the autobiographical self]. Exploring identity or who we are.
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Moving forward with the integration of that which was discovered or learned on a well-being, healing, plant medicine, or personal development retreat.
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Building well-being practices, increasing resilience, and living with deeper harmonious meaning.
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Understanding how all human drives, are alive to a dynamic interaction between cognition, affect [feelings, emotions and moods], and behaviour. This includes understanding how our:
♾️ unconscious cognition directly drives us.
♾️ emotional processes work, as well as emotion identification, emotional regulation and agility.
♾️ defences, resistances, biases, and so forth come alive.
Methodology, approach, and experience
Our work begins only after we have established that we can work together, and that you feel that you can trust me enough to reveal your most authentic self and that which you would hesitate to share elsewhere.
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Confidentiality and professional association
Confidentiality, ethical practice, professional association and our terms of working together can be explored here.
What is our next step?
If what you read resonates, or you would like to find out more, lets set up a discovery call. To schedule a conversation simply email me here.
